It’s hard to create positive improvement out of negativity


I have family members that are obese, even a couple nearly or actually morbidly obese, so while I think it’s out of gross laziness/lack of self-esteem/respect that most people this fat got to be (and stay) that way, I also recognize that positive encouragement is the best way to affect change.  Negativity usually just breeds more negativity.

I accept fat people for who they are, which means that they may be nice people, very genuine, caring people, they are also lazy or have large self esteem/respect issues.  This doesn’t make them horrible people, it just makes them flawed in a way that is very visible and off putting to many.  The joy I felt when a family member (who is likely morbidly obese) confided in me that she’d been slowly losing weight and not telling anyone (truly driven by just herself) was immense.  Since that point I’ve been communicating with her to encourage her and help her get to a healthier place.

What the fat acceptance movement doesn’t understand, is that nobody should be accepted for not being healthy and for having some shortcoming that they can control.  We should all be encouraged to be the best that we can be.  I accept it if someone wants to be fat, but that doesn’t mean that I have to consider it a smart choice or a healthy choice or something to be praised, just like I accept if someone wants to smoke or they want to drink to excess.  That’s their choice, it doesn’t make it a smart or a respectable one.


~ by aneroidocean on 08/07/2013.

2 Responses to “It’s hard to create positive improvement out of negativity”

  1. I’m never cruel about it until someone like Lindy West comes around and damages my calm by calling me every name under the sun because i don’t value her as a sexual being because she is grotesquely overweight. She gets mad that i don’t value all her other ‘positive’ traits and only am a shallow bastard for looking at thin/attractive women sexually.

    That’s when i get cruel.. and surgically aim that cruelty directly towards that group of people who want something for nothing, who want from me what they won’t give others.

    Lindy West would not find a man without a job, living in his mothers basement, playing xbox, getting an allowance and smoking pot all day not attractive. And she’s cruel about it. Most Jezzies don’t find a majority of men attractive, castigating ‘niceguys’ as bitter losers who can’t get laid. They revel in their cruelty.

    It least when im cruel.. it’s a teachable moment that has the power to change someones life for the better if they adopt the healthy lifestyle. Jezzies are cruel just to be cruel.. they don’t want guys getting better, because that would mean they’d have to get better too.

    Misery loves company.

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